June 1st, 2010 
Single in SF City Ever thought about why????The Friday night date was fun, but after that date, he never tried to put any moves on me. No kiss, nothing. I couldn’t help but wonder why he was holding back because we seemed to be getting along so well.The Friday night date was fun, but after that date, he never tried to put any moves on me. No kiss, nothing. I couldn’t help but wonder why he was holding back because we seemed to be getting along so well.
It’s a lesson that goes way back…
About five years ago, I’d met this doctor through an online dating service. After we’d done the whole e-mailing bit, he’d called me to set up dinner for Thursday night. Off to a good start 
The night we met up for dinner was fabulous. We were getting along great. He even paid me a follow-up call the next day to make plans for the next weekend. Those plans ended up being a movie on a Friday night. By that point, I totally thought I’d scored! A doctor? Friday night? WHOOP WHOOP!
The Friday night date was fun, but after that date, he never tried to put any moves on me. No kiss, nothing. I couldn’t help but wonder why he was holding back because we seemed to be getting along so well.
But oK, fine. Friday night date….I was moving up the ladder.
The next time he’d asked me out was for a Sunday afternoon semi-formal jazz concert in the city. I remember thinking…”Wow, he’s asking me out to a more formal event…I’m totally in with this guy”.Once again, we had a lovely time on the date.
Afterwards, he ended the night with a hug. WTF? Was he gay???
OK, now something was wrong. I mean, it was the third date and no kiss?
So that night, I had to see what was up.
I called him and said, “Listen, this may be kind of an awkward subject, but I have to tell you that the next time we see each other, I have to kiss you.”
He replied hesitantly, “Well, you know what I wanted to tell you tonight? I am seeing someone else and we’ve decided that we’re going to start seeing each other seriously now. I wanted to tell you but I didn’t know how…”
OMG, I was stunned. But I handled it well. I congratulated him and wished him luck. After all, he had taken me on three great dates.
Unfortunately, this was a rough lesson to take. But it is so true and it applies to both guys and girls. Like my favorite matchmaker Patti Stanger said, “If he doesn’t give you Saturday night, he’s not that into you”.
And in this case, not only was he not into me, but he had a girl on the backburer too.
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