Ladies, Is He Asking You About Money???

May 7th, 2009 Single in SF City

I have to get back to the point I made in the previous post.

Ladies, NEVER EVER EVER let a man pry into your financial situation.

Why?

First off, your financial situation is none of a man’s business unless you’re in a serious long-term relationship.

Second, if he’s asking, that means he probably wants some of it.

Case in point…

I’ve dated a lot of guys who made less money than me. Not that I ever asked, but their professions usually dictated their income bracket. And those were the EXACT same guys who attempted to pry into my financial life.

For the most part, the guy would try to “beat around the bush” and allude to my lifestyle, and press on how nice my car and apartment were. This has happened with (among others):

1. A guy on a first date.

2. A guy I had been dating for some time.

3. An ex boyfriend.

The guy on the first date had the nerve to say “Oh, you’re doing well for yourself. Girls like you who make a lot of money always act the same way.” WTF? Girls like me? I never told him my income or even indicated a range. But that guy was a bum and felt like a bum in front of me. So that’s why he chose to put me up on this pedestal and make me feel like a “high maintenance” kind of girl.

The second guy did not have a profession. He had a regular job at a store that I won’t mention. But he would always say things to me like “Oh, you should just go ahead and buy this or that…You know you can afford it!” I always thought of saying “Well, if you were a man and wanted me to have these things, then why don’t you buy them for me?” This guy was totally insecure.

The third guy was just cheap. He was actually a professional, but he had the nerve to straight up ask, “How much money do you make”. And he continued to ask that same question from the time I met him to the time our relationship ended. I always told him, “I don’t divulge my financial situation unless I’m getting married.” Come to find out, he was always just cheap and DEFINITELY wanted to take advantage of my money.

LADIES: If he does this, it’s a sign of insecurity. It is very likely that he’s also trying to get into your pockets.

I know what you’re thinking and YES, it’s true…I need to start picking new guys ;)

Want a Good Man? Then Don’t….

May 5th, 2009 Single in SF City

I’m a good catch :) Lots of us are.

But I’ve seen and done some things that would never get me a good man!

Ladies, if you want a decent guy, you gotta be a decent girl.

Here are five things NOT to do….

1. Don’t get drunk in front of a guy.

Pretty self explanatory, right? But why do so many girls get sloppy-wasted in front of a guy? If you’re on a date and drinks are involved, pace yourself!!! One, or two drinks MAX. And if he’s gonna buy you drinks, then he better buy you food too.

See my post: When It’s time to Go Home, You Got to Get the F*** Out

Nuff Said!

2. Don’t offer to pay.

I’m sorry, but why do girls offer to pay on the first or even second date? I would never even offer, because what if a guy takes you up on that offer? It would be a super red flag if he did. But who cares? Don’t even go there!

It’s not a woman’s place to pay for dinner or drinks. If you offer and he says “yes”, it’s your fault!

3. Don’t accept a date invitation by text!

OK, when a guy texts “hi, hello…”, that’s fine. But if he asks you out via text-message, DO NOT ACCEPT! Yes, times are-a-changin’, but this one is a no-brainer. I’ve had a handful of guys try to ask me out on a date via text, and I can’t help but think to myself, “Damn, is he too lazy to call me to make plans?”

When a girl accepts a text-message invitation, I think it sends a message to a guy that it’s ok to be lazy.

That’s just my humble opinion

4. Don’t talk about money.

I won’t ever let a guy take me into a conversation about money. Trust me, so many guys have tried to lead me into that subject, but I back out without hesitation. WHY? Because how much money a woman makes is NONE of a guy’s business.

I’ll write more on this subject later, but for now, just know that if a guy is prying into your financial life, it’s a TOTAL red flag.

Letting him into your financial situation is like givin up the “goods” too soon, if you know what I mean.

5. Don’t act like a hoe.

How many of us have made this mistake? I won’t say if I have or not, ha ha! Acting like a hoe entails MANY things.

What’s on the list? Givin it up on the first date, booty calls, being too easy in general.

If you have self respect, then demand the same from the guy!

Wash your mouth out with SOAP if you have to!

April 15th, 2009 Single in SF City

This is a quickie tip for both guys and girls…

I’d met a guy several weeks ago who was totally cool. We got along just fab and I even sensed a little chemistry, ooooh! We had a fantastic date; conversation was flowing, he paid for the meal without hesitation, and he even walked me home.

Low and behold, I was correctomundo on the chemistry because he attempted a kiss at the end of the night.

To my total displeasure, his attempt was a freaking disaster!

Why? You might ask…

His breath smelled like a TOILET! A toilet full of cigarettes and a bunch of other nasty sh**.

Normally, my sense of smell is right on. But for some reason, I couldn’t detect the repugnancy of his breath while I was talking to him.

Seriously, it was such a shame.

I just had to turn my head. And that was the end of the night, and unfortunately, the last time I wanted to see him.

Such sadness I feel when I think that a cool guy completely ruined his chances and his reputation with foul hygiene.

This is an easy and free tip for everyone! Wash your freaking mouth out because you never know where or when you might have to use it.

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